How To Thrive ALONE

Being alone has weird connotations in society. Why is that person sitting by themselves? How is that person so comfortable traveling without a friend? I wish I could be that confident to go to a networking event…  

We all have these thoughts when seeing an individual thrive alone, and while connecting with others is a beautiful experience, being able to do things confidently all by yourself is a skill that takes practice. The reality is we may not always have our network, whether it be moving to a new place, traveling to a different country, or just trying a new workout studio by yourself, being able to embrace your solo adventures is a difficult skill to perfect. 

While I’m introverted and do love spending time alone, I still get nervous going out into the world alone.  Doing tasks without a friend makes every thought just a little more doubtful and every task a little more scary. But with time, I have grown to love my days by myself, dedicating hours to do what ever I want, and even planning trips without anyone. I have made even the most codependent people learn to be comfortable with alone time. 

Here are some great ways to step out of your comfort zone

One. Go on a walk by yourself.

This task seems simple, but some people are too caught up with others, they can’t even imagine going on a walk with their own thoughts. Pick a park or a new place and allow time to be with your own ideas and stresses, allowing the time to give you a fresh perspective.

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Two. Try out a class.

Going to a new class, whether it be the most intense spin class, a low key yoga class, or an intermediate cooking lesson are all very intimidating experiences. Entering a place where others have developed relationships with the teacher or others can be scary, but going for a new class is a huge test for your abilities to do things alone. It not only takes courage to try something new, but to face it alone will show you, you’re capable of a lot!

Three. Join a group.

Most cities have plenty of groups and clubs that meet up for various hobbies and activities. Find an activity and commit yourself to going each week. Whether it be a language class, a running club, a knitting group, a kick ball team, or a Harry Potter discussion group, people love meeting others with similar interests, and it’s a great way to test your social abilities alone.

Four. Eat alone.

For some reason, going to a restaurant solo seems unusual because food is such a social occurrence, but it can allow for spectacular meals at your own pace. You can bring a book, people watch, or just sit with your thoughts.

Five. Travel solo.

The ultimate test to your independence is booking a trip where you know no one. Traveling to a new country without friends allows you to fully do the things you want without external itineraries and pushes you to meet new people. Book an Eat, Pray, Love Trip and go take a trip for yourself.

When I give time to myself, I find my other relationships get much stronger. Having no time to think your own thoughts can lead to short tempered responses and unease. I love days to myself so much, I have the tradition of making my birthdays solo ventures, doing everything I want to do, whether it be getting my hair done, binge watching my favorite netflix show, or spending the day outside, I love getting to decide. Of course, I always enjoy hanging out with people too, and I love meeting new friends, but having a balance is key to become comfortable in new settings.